Thinking about Hospitality

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In the wake of the Presidential election, I’m even more thoughtful about community building and neighborliness than before. It’s easy to assume the country is close and united when we have two moderate candidates in the running, but throughout this election cycle, I’ve been stunned by the differences in mindsets among the candidates, and by the closeness of the races: the country is divided.

I know that there are some disagreements that getting to know each other cannot solve. I know that being political is not a good way to run a food blog or host a dinner party or any of the things I claim. But I do think that talking to each other, knowing people whose experiences are different from our own, seems to be one of the only chances for getting out of this mess. Half of America is a stranger to the other half; they need to have each other over for dinner.

For this reason, part of my upcoming thoughts on the blog are going to shift toward discussing modern hospitality and how people talk to strangers around them. I want to keep talking about food, because I think we are all so united when it comes to food and wanting to belong. However, I think that the ability to be isolated and self-reliant but miserable is higher than it ever has been in the United States, and I want to be a part of figuring out where we need to come together. So many books talk about how we are desperate to connect to each other, that disconnection causes so much pain and ruin. I would submit there has to be a place where people are brought together who disagree with each other, who can eat together and maybe let down some of their most emotionally-held beliefs for a little while.

This blog has always been about forming community with my friends and family; I just think that this election cycle shows that I need to move beyond that, to strangers and political opponents and people I don’t understand. We all have to live together, after all.

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34 comments on “Thinking about Hospitality

  1. cobgoddess says:

    I agree about building community.
    At the moment seams impossible and challenging.
    What would it take to create such a beautiful thing?

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  2. Vic Crain says:

    Good luck with that. My job is trying to keep people with health coverage — literally keeping them alive. Just that has become a lot harder in the last day.

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  3. I think everyone should start by not judging how others should feel, and food always helps us with that because everyone feels a certain way about certain food all the time, if we apply that do every day life things may looked with a different eye.

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  4. Beautiful post! “We all have to live together, after all.” Love this quote! 🙂

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  5. absar555 says:

    I think Americans gave him the hardest job ever what he is not ready for but the time will probe. But it’s always good to be connected with people who have a heart for contribution.

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  6. Thank you for these words. I needed them today.

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  7. Kate says:

    This is a lovely post, and I agree.

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  8. gebbysmith says:

    Yes, I believe that our nation’s healing will come one informal gathering at a time! Thank you for your post!

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  9. Elizabeth says:

    In the days of early feminism, we used to say “the personal is political.” We have to choose to be uncomfortable and move outside our little bubbles to meet “the other.” Potlucks where each person brings a family ethnic dish can open conversations. Everyone needs to eat!

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  10. foodinbooks says:

    Well said. Important to focus on what we have in common – our love of food and meals – and hopefully find a way toward common ground. It’s going to be tough, but nothing worthwhile is easy. Thank you for posting. I much needed this perspective today.

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  11. Cathysrealcountrygarden@wordpress.com says:

    We all need all friends we can get.

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  12. Sissy MacK says:

    I’m looking forward to this new slant. We are Heathen (practitioners of Old Norse spirituality) and hospitality is one of our noble virtues, as is self-reliance. They can exist together.

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    • helenwelsh18 says:

      That’s great, Sissy. I’m into Celtic Christianity, which also has hospitality as a fundamental way of life… ‘oft, oft, oft goes the Christ in the stranger’s guise’. I think I feel a new post coming on!

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  13. 3nmeblog says:

    This was great! love it, yes, we all need to get to connect!

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  15. BrianL says:

    Excellent post. And thanks for stopping by

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  16. Great piece! It’s so true we all need to extended hospitality to those we don’t know and who we disagree with. This shows TRUE character. I would love to reblog this, but of course I would like to ask permission first.

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  17. Reblogged this on Vintage Feminist and commented:
    This is such an important lesson for us all to learn and very “old-fashion” and timeless. It is so easy to be kind and offer hospitality to those you love and agree with, but to show hospitality to those you don’t shows TRUE character and kindness.

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  18. Elizabeth says:

    It would be wonderful if people could come together but, seeing the riots and protests after this election I have serious doubts. It reminds me of 1968 but, in many ways, much worse. I pray that people will settle down and remember that we’re all in this together instead of reminding themselves how different we can be on some things.

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  19. helenwelsh18 says:

    Well said. I couldn’t agree more. I’ve been wanting to say something about the election but don’t want to sound like a smug, know-it-all foreigner-without-portfolio. After all, what is it to do with me? But the truth is that even here in Scotland, we’ll be affected by such a significant event. Sharing food and conversation is the way forward. May the road rise up to meet you.

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  20. helenwelsh18 says:

    PS having read through some more of these comments – would you mind if I reposted this also, on mine? It’s such a universal theme …

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  21. lainalarisse says:

    I think as a society we apologize for our opinions too much because we don’t want to offend anyone. It’s an opinion and everyone should be allowed to have a point of view without being threatened.

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  22. sultanabun says:

    Wise words indeed.

    Like

  23. helenwelsh18 says:

    Reblogged this on A Drawerful of Porridge and commented:
    I’ve been wanting to say something about the US election results, but am aware that many readers are American and this is their experience, and glib comments from a mere foreigner might not be helpful. However one of the bloggers I follow, ‘Recipe in a Bottle’, has said it all and I asked her permission to reblog. Here it is:

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  24. Linda says:

    Food is healing, food is community! What a beautiful post. Thanks for following, and I look forward to reading more frok you!

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  25. allaboutme31 says:

    Great post! Do you mind if I reblog this on my blog post? We all need some healing and I would love to share your beautiful post.

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  26. allaboutme31 says:

    Reblogged this on All About Me and commented:
    Read this wonderful post by Recipe in a Bottle, and thought we all need some healing. Hence enjoy the post. Check out more of her beautiful recipes and posts.

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  27. emmx2013 says:

    An excellent conclusion to the current political situation.
    Thanks for following my blog
    Here’s to Your Health!
    evelynmmaxwell.com
    Evelyn

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